Posted by Lady Bee in Body ImageEmpowermentRace and Racism. About 2 and a half years ago, I studied abroad in Madrid, Spain. It was one of the most amazing experiences of my life, except for one tiny detail…the dating scene. Which, for the record, is not me. But after the first month when most of the guys I met were asking about my dating scene in madrid friends in the program, who were both blonde and blue eyed, I started to feel a bit peeved.
We had been warned that racism was rampant in Spain; immigration had just opened up about 20 years ago and Spain cating had a lot of issues to work through. However, a fellow female of color peer got it madrjd worse; people asking her how much for a night, touching her and madriv to her, that she left the program early. And America, with the music that was featured in most clubs, and the fashion, which was seen in a plethora of stores, was the ideal…and, as exhibited by the media, white.
Therefore, anyone madrud was light skinned and who spoke English was exalted, coveted and sought after, if only to live up to the media standard. Personally, after a time, I actually preferred to be ignored than to be sexualized. I perfected the art of dancing by myself, which I not so secretly love. And it became a game how many creeps I had to chase away from my friends by pretending to absolutely NEED a drink or be their lover. It was the times when I was noticed that bothered ij the most.
When I left Spain I felt a bit mmadrid relief. I was removing myself from the atmosphere that lauded whiteness as beauty. But then I began to see it more clearly back home. How the media highlighted it in commercials and magazines. How being anything above a size 2 was too big. And I am sick of it. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but what if the beholder is biased to think of only a specific idea, concept, ideal, as perfect?
Be proud sisters of color. Bare your skin and your voice and your style so that in time, through your words, and actions and insistence, the norm changes to reflect the rainbow. That is what I learned in the time since I left Spain. October 23, at I spent about three weeks in Spain a few years ago. When I was in Madrid, I remember noting how the Spanish men I knew fetishized young Scens women.
But it certainly makes sense, and it was fascinating to hear about your experience. October 23, at 1: Sscene in a nightclub a few friends intervened between me a group of men who seemed to be trying to surround me. October 23, at 2: I had to intervene in a couple similar situations on a group trip to France — girl classmates being surrounded by groups of men my French was good at the time and they were not saying good madrix Sorry you had to experience that.
October 23, at 6: ,adrid is beautiful in their own way! Paula F-Wulff Madrkd said: October 25, at Although morena can refer to the skin complexion, in this case when men dating scene in madrid it in this sense at least it does not. I have brown hair and dark eyes and I unfortunately sometimes get those as well. It is usually assumed that we like it when men make those comments…I think probably Spanish men might be more attracted to fair skin and blond hair because ij characteristics stand out in Spain, but not due to racism.
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